Do you like your spouse
I'm convinced we all need to decide we like our spouses, our mother-in-laws, our parents, our neighbors.It may sound overly simplified, but one prerequisite to divorce is one or both spouses deciding they really don't like each other and one another's family. Preventing divorce is, of course, not as easy as simply liking one another (not to mention loving) but it's often overlooked and undervalued. Like being 50 yards from the green and pulling out a driver, that's the wrong approach.
Try praying for your spouse and then liking him or her. When Jill and I decided we'd just enjoy and like one another and we grew together over the last 15 years, we've experienced joy inexpressible.
CAUTION: prayer and liking each other is a start but there are many resources that can help. Some need competent Christian counseling. Don't be afraid of this. Jill and I have been to counseling at times when we needed to work through some deep issues. One of our favorite "marriage" books is Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages that details how we love and desire to be loved through one or a combination of quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.
[comments imported from Radio blog] I like MY spouse! We began as close friends, then came love and marriage, then the wars of the early years. Now we've gotten back to being friends again -- it's the best. Clarissa • 8/12/04; 7:33:26 AM #